R is for Reed

Early last week, I was in Boca Raton with Tyler. He was on business. Since I hadn't had a day off since early January, I figured it was worth it for me to go with him to the lovely Boca Resort and sit on the beach for three days while he worked. (grins)

Because I shared a room and all of the amenities with him, I was known by everyone at the Boca resort as Ms. Reed.

The assumption was interesting. Not a bad one because we are getting married next May. But interesting. Perhaps even more interesting was that the rental car was under my name and Tyler was assumed to be Mr. Sarno. I liked that.

Of course, we have had the name-change discussion. Tyler has no strong opinions on the subject. I can't imagine being someone other than Melissa Sarno, particularly in my professional life. I've already made the decision that if I ever get published..oh wait, thoughts become things...I mean when I get published, it will be under Melissa Sarno. That's a done deal. And there will be no hyphenating. I'm not interested in that.

So, the professional aspect aside, the idea of being Melissa Reed is...to put it eloquently...tripping me out.

But these assumptions really put things in perspective. If I don't change my name in my personal life, I will forever be called Ms. Reed anyway. If we have children, they will be probably be known as Reeds and everyone will assume I'm the Mama Reed. And everybody in South Florida already thinks I'm a Reed anyway.

So, maybe Reed is a done deal without my say. Maybe I don't even have to officially change it because people will just be calling me a Reed and I'll go with the flow. And Reed is actually quite a nice name. It's not like I'd be going to Lipschitz or something (sorry if I offended anyone named Lipschitz, but you know that's tough, right?)

I wonder what all of you think of the name change. Have you or your spouse had to change your name when you tied the knot? Was it an easy decision?