You let people be who they are. I read this in Then Again, Diane Keaton's memoir (which I enjoyed, which I recommend.) Goldie Hawn had said it, claiming to have reached a time in her life when this was possible. It struck me because of what a complex idea it is, stated with such simplicity.
I woke up thinking about this kind of acceptance, what it means to let go of my expectations of others (and myself). There have been many times in my life when I have wanted to question people, their motivations, why they behave a certain way. It's not something I do often (though of course I have, we all have, haven't we?) If someone is unkind, should we not tell that person? You kicked the puppy! Why did you kick the puppy?!
I wonder, how important is it to question who a person is, to fight it?
I don't know. It's complicated, like I said. Not so simple, right? What do you think?